Who this is for
Who this guide is for.
This guide is about being flat in a life with nothing wrong with it. Here is who it suits, who it does not, and who you will be talking to.
It is for you if
- Nothing is wrong in your life, and you are still flat
- You have more to watch, read and do than ever, and want none of it
- You find it harder to say you are bored than to say you are in trouble
- You want to understand where the flatness comes from
It is probably not for you if
- The flatness has turned into something darker. Go to the help page now
- You want a diagnosis or treatment
- You want a productivity system or a list of hobbies
It is not a therapy service, a counselling service, a diagnostic tool or a productivity system, and it will not pretend to be.
Who you will be talking to
On paper, I will not suit everyone. In person, I seem to do well. I am a former headhunter, not a doctor, a therapist or a guru. I spent nearly twenty years sitting across a table from men at the moment their lives were changing, and the job was to listen properly and tell them the honest thing, even when it was not what they came in for.
This site is the nearest I can get to that table, for any man anywhere in the world. The replies come from an SI (super intelligence) guide that works from my notes and my voice. It is not me typing, and it will never pretend to be.
If you want a polished brochure, a ten-step plan, or somebody to tell you that you are right, I am probably not your man. If you want somebody straight with you, who will not flatter you and will not panic on your behalf, pull up a chair.
Still here?
Then this is probably your place. Say where you are, in your own words, and take it one question at a time.
Written by James Roberts, with help from AI.